You’ve probably checked your social media accounts multiple times today without even thinking about it. Scrolling through Facebook, posting on Instagram or tweeting your thoughts has become second nature for most people.
But this everyday habit can quickly become your worst enemy when you’re going through a divorce. Unfortunately, countless examples abound of people whose social media activity significantly damaged their position in court.
What seems like innocent sharing can transform into powerful evidence against you, potentially affecting everything from asset division to custody arrangements.
How others can use your online presence against you
Your digital footprint creates a permanent record that can be scrutinized during divorce proceedings. Here are several ways your social media activity might work against you:
- Photos of expensive purchases can contradict claims about financial hardship
- Check-ins at bars or parties might suggest irresponsible behavior when you should have been with your children
- Negative comments about your spouse can demonstrate hostility and poor co-parenting potential
- Dating profile activity might establish infidelity or moving on too quickly
- Vacation pictures could undermine claims about inability to pay support
- Timestamps on posts might reveal inconsistencies in your testimony
The court doesn’t need your password to see this content, as screenshots from mutual friends or public posts are easily admissible as evidence.
Tips for safely posting online
While avoiding social media during your divorce is the safest approach, it’s unrealistic for some. If you must stay connected, follow these guidelines:
- Adjust privacy settings to the highest level on all platforms
- Remove mutual friends who might share your content with your spouse
- Never post negative comments about your ex or the divorce process
- Avoid sharing your location or details about new relationships
- Think twice before posting about purchases, vacations or lifestyle changes
- Ask friends not to tag you in photos or posts
- Remember that even “deleted” content can often be recovered
- Consider having a trusted friend review posts before publishing
If you’re still unsure, it’s advisable to consult with your divorce attorney about specific guidelines for your case. The judge determining your future might interpret something that seems harmless to you differently.
Remember, the temporary satisfaction of an emotional post isn’t worth the potential long-term consequences to your divorce settlement. When in doubt, stay offline.